Things I've learned working my Mary Kay business

Confidence and humility go hand in hand and lead you to success. Confidence without humility is arrogance and humility without confidence is timidity which is also selfishness - you're so worried about what people are thinking that you're only focused on yourself.

Being a people person is more than just having people like you. It's about liking people and understanding who they are. It's nice to be important, but it's more important to be nice.

True success is built when God comes first, family comes second, and career comes third. And a strong family is built when the people around you can see you set goals, achieve them and miss them, and witness your work ethic. Children learn more from watching than telling.

Believing in people comes from believing in yourself. When you believe in others they can achieve anything. But accepting what they choose to do or not do is a form of maturity and love.

Friendship can be powerful. It can be so strong that you'll put forth any effort to stay close to the people who lift you up and help you be who you want to be. So powerful that it can lead you to your deepest dreams and desires without you knowing it's happening. True friendship is not sitting around talking about random stuff, but constantly encouraging others and lifting them up so they can be their best selves.

So many more things can be said, but if you didn't know me before Mary Kay, I will tell you I was a lot more selfish than I am now (is this even possible???), I was super negative about everything, I judged people a lot, and I did not care very much about other people's feelings. This business is so much more than skin care and makeup. Although those things are fun, we truly and honestly focus on improving who a person is on the inside. When people talk to me about Mary Kay and all they do is talk about the products, I feel so weird about it because the products are not what I think about at all. I think about the women that want to change their lives and their situation. If you don't believe me, that's fine, but that's how it is.


I love sharing the products with people because they literally are the best out there, but more so I love talking about enhancing myself through keeping a positive attitude, loving my life, and doing things that I love to do. This business allows me to do so much not just because of the money and the choices it provides, but because I am an independent women who has goals, success, quality friendships and joy all around me. I seriously could not ask for more, except I do. I want more from this business because I know I can help others achieve what I have achieved and feel how I feel.

Change

The hardest place I've ever had to move from was Arizona. I truly loved my life there and even with how hard it was, I knew there was more for me somewhere else.

Finishing my Bachelor's degree seemed a long road(9 years), but I did it and had dreams for my future (all of which involved traveling). I, however, felt that getting married would move me along a better path, so I chose that instead.

With both decisions I prayed. And both decisions I honestly felt that life would be great no matter what I chose which made them harder to actually go through with. Because of not just these choices but a lot of changes I've gone through, I've learned that change is always good. It has always helped me to be a better person and I love change now.

I could have never imagined having as great of life that I do. I have a husband who will literally do anything for me and strives every day to make me happy. I have 2 dogs that I adore (one more than the other though haha) and they make me happy. And I seriously have the best job in the world. It's my 18th try at a job. I've done so many different things and this blows them all out of the water. I get to make my own schedule, meet amazing people, have the best and most positive support group helping me, build women's confidence, and make more money than I ever thought was possible for myself.

And it will all change.

Very soon my life will be something I honestly and truly never wanted. People tell me it'll be the best thing ever. Do I believe them? Yes, I actually do. But does that make me want it? No, and I have no explanation.
I have no idea why I feel this way. I always have. With every congratulation, my heart wants to burst out with tears. I do have faith that it'll be okay. I do know that it will be great. But that doesn't in any way change how I'm feeling now. And I don't know how long I will feel this way. Nothing anyone says can help.

That is why I'm writing this. I don't want to explain this to everyone and I don't want anyone to think I dislike them or am upset with them for not responding the way "I should." I just need to do my thing... and I don't even know what that means.

Is she a Feminist or a Shrew?

Feminism is sweeping the nation and the world. It is a very popular topic. More and more women are striving to find their own place in this feminist movement. The definition of feminism INCLUDES having a feminine character. But is that what we are focusing on?

When you hear someone say "she's a feminist." The first impression that comes to mind is someone who stands up for her rights. Someone that wants equality between women and men. That is what it is supposed to be. That is the definition, but I think it's being taken a little too far. People feel the need to become more like a man to be equal with a man. What is so great about men anyway? If we want equal rights, does it make sense to completely change ourselves? That is not equal, that is conforming. Isn't it more about individuality and being more of what you actually are?

Feminism seems more of an excuse now; an excuse to be condescending. When did that become okay? I, for one, do not want to be thought of as malicious, criticizing, downgrading and vulgar. It might sound a little abrupt and generalizing, but most people would agree. There are the few people out there that are ruining this movement for all of us. Feminism should be a positive thing. It should be a term that shows we are focusing on becoming the best us and achieving amazing things. We should embrace our femininity to be proud of who we are, not strive to be something someone else is.

What is a feminine character? Yes, women have been described as having sensitivities and gentleness. This is NOT a bad thing! It is part of who we are and part of our hormones. Embrace ourselves and use our strengths to propel us to where we want to be. Women have such unique qualities that can be used to really make a difference in this world. But a rising number of women are throwing away who we are to replace it with harshness and abrasiveness. How shrew-like do we need to become before we will be satisfied with our achievements? I suspect it will never end. Women who have this mentality of what feminism is will never be satisfied with how they measure up. These women have great pride in what they do and who they are and that gives them satisfaction, but it will never replace their low self-esteem. They do not recognize themselves as special, beautiful, and lovable.

Real feminism is embracing who you are and rising up anyway! It's being who you are and focusing on being a better you. THIS will bring success, this will bring you equality, and this will bring you confidence that is mixed with joy. We do not need to be rude and demeaning. We do not have to be loud and disapproval. What we can be is influential, uplifting, powerful, and assertive. We do not have to take crap from people, but we should react with kindness. People all over the world respond to kindness much more than they respond to people who are argumentative. If there is anything I've learned in the last couple years of leadership it would be that I can do it successfully and well by being lady-like assertive. This is different than being pushy and it's definitely different than being coarse. It is doing what you need to do to get the job done and being a women while doing it. It's not being passive or aggressive. It's simply, assertive.

Who do you honestly want to be? How do you want people to view you? Do you want to be surrounded by people who love you and care for you, or would you rather have people be afraid of you and avoid talking to you? I know women. I know what is deep in their hearts. No matter what they say on the outside, I know that on the inside they would like to be the person they were honestly meant to be (which is influential). Sometimes they just don't know the right path to get there. Sometimes they think there is no other way and they become a shrew. I know this because this was the path I was going down until I realized there is a better way; a better way to advocate for women. And this way actually brings phenomenal results.